diff --git a/pages/api/sms/[instance]/index.ts b/pages/api/sms/[instance]/index.ts
index 7e0afb9..0528915 100644
--- a/pages/api/sms/[instance]/index.ts
+++ b/pages/api/sms/[instance]/index.ts
@@ -135,10 +135,19 @@ const handleText = async (req:NextApiRequest, res:NextApiResponse, input:string,
           // let's check for a yes
           if (response.toLowerCase() === 'yes') {
             let c = cases[0];
-            await ReminderDao.create({
+            await ReminderDao.updateOne({
               uid: c.uid,
               number: c.number,
               phone,
+            },
+            {
+              uid: c.uid,
+              number: c.number,
+              phone,
+              active: true
+            },
+            {
+              upsert: true
             });
 
             logger.info(`${phone} (${instance})[${state}]: reminder set`, { metadata: {
@@ -179,10 +188,19 @@ const handleText = async (req:NextApiRequest, res:NextApiResponse, input:string,
           // if a number was given lets check to see if it maps to a case index
           if (response === parseInt(response).toString() && index >= 0 && index < cases.length) {
             let c = cases[index];
-            await ReminderDao.create({
+            await ReminderDao.updateOne({
+              uid: c.uid,
+              number: c.number,
+              phone,
+            },
+            {
               uid: c.uid,
               number: c.number,
               phone,
+              active: true
+            },
+            {
+              upsert: true
             });
 
             logger.info(`${phone} (${instance})[${state}]: reminder set`, { metadata: {