use settings from trio for Selector waker socketpair

[graingert]

Changes

Lifted from https://github.com/python-trio/trio/blob/da89ae850658fb365064cb12a47659c8a0ac44b5/src/trio/_core/_wakeup_socketpair.py#L12

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[graingert]

not sure how to test this, also needs a changelog entry