add support for jakarta jms 3.1

[BusyByte]

closes: #4443

[slandelle]

As I said, this solution of forking everything should really be a last resort. Forking is easy, maintaining duplicated code is a huge pain. I think it should be possible to share the internals using some type classes to do the adapters, possibly inlined.

[BusyByte]

@slandelle I was going to create another module named like jms common or core and move common stuff there and have the individual ones pull it in as a dependency

[slandelle]

@BusyByte Great! Good luck!