[clangd][unittests] Limit paralelism for clangd unittests

[kadircet]

We started seeing a lot of timeouts that align with the change in lit to
execute gtests in shards. The logic there assumes tests are
single-threaded, which is the case for most of the LLVM, hence they
pick #shards ~ #cores (by slightly overshooting).

There are enough unittests in clangd that rely on multi-threading, they
can create arbitrarily many threads but we limit amount of meaningful
work to ~4 thread per process.

This change ensures that we're accounting for that paralelism when
executing clangd tests and not overloading test executors.

In theory the change overestimates the requirements, not all tests are
multi-threaded, but it doesn't seem to be resulting in any regressions
on my local runs.

Fixes #64964.
Fixes clangd/clangd#1712.

[kadircet]

@HighCommander4 @AaronBallman FYI

[AaronBallman]

Thank you!