setup: Simplify build of abi3 wheels and add tests #514

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Run quick tests	1m 7s
Run windows tests	1m 5s
Run full tests (3.9, py39-full)	1m 44s
Run full tests (3.10, py310-full)	1m 38s
Run full tests (3.10.8, py310-full)	1m 46s
Run full tests (3.11, py311-full)	1m 35s
Run full tests (3.11.0, py311-full)	1m 39s
Run full tests (3.12, py312-full)	1m 39s
Run full tests (3.13, py313-full)	2m 8s
Run full tests (3.14.0-alpha.1 - 3.14, py314-full)	2m 8s
Run full tests (pypy-3.10, pypy3)	1m 11s
Run full tests (3.11, docs)	1m 5s
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