fix: only call npmlog progress methods if explicitly requested

[lukekarrys]

Fixes #3314

[npm-robot]

found 1 benchmarks with statistically significant performance regressions

• app-large: clean

timing results

app-large	clean	lock-only	cache-only	cache-only peer-deps	modules-only	no-lock	no-cache	no-modules	no-clean	no-clean audit
npm@8	63.823 ±0.88	36.401 ±0.31	22.312 ±0.23	24.979 ±1.05	3.552 ±0.05	3.669 ±0.02	2.909 ±0.02	15.316 ±0.41	2.916 ±0.03	3.984 ±0.02
#4644	74.640 ±1.33	37.189 ±0.38	22.793 ±0.12	25.846 ±0.74	3.746 ±0.02	3.888 ±0.00	3.007 ±0.02	15.565 ±0.22	3.072 ±0.04	4.221 ±0.06

app-medium	clean	lock-only	cache-only	cache-only peer-deps	modules-only	no-lock	no-cache	no-modules	no-clean	no-clean audit
npm@8	51.634 ±9.41	27.390 ±0.10	16.160 ±0.07	17.534 ±0.46	3.360 ±0.05	3.313 ±0.01	2.922 ±0.07	11.221 ±0.24	2.927 ±0.02	3.787 ±0.07
#4644	84.657 ±31.01	42.929 ±20.57	17.128 ±0.06	17.716 ±0.22	3.463 ±0.01	3.382 ±0.01	3.042 ±0.02	11.381 ±0.02	2.841 ±0.07	3.957 ±0.13